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Friday, August 07, 2009

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Erin

Jees Louise. So glad he's doing okay.

When my boy was about Kyle's age, he fell asleep with his eyes open (face-down in the crib), and I freaked because he wasn't responding when I called his name, he was completely still (because he was asleep, but I didn't know that). Good golly that was the scare of a lifetime.

I ended up yelling his name and picking him up, and he was none too pleased to be rudely awakened, but God did I not even care.

Metalia

Oh, Jennie. That is terrifying. I'm so, so glad he--and YOU-- are okay. xoxo

Kerri Anne

SO scary. But I'm so glad Kyle, and you and Mike are OK. And of course! you did the right thing, though of of course you don't need me to back you up there. But I am anyway.

Steph

I am SO GLAD he is okay. I'm sad you had to go through that last night, I'm sure it was heart-wrenching and painful. But thanks for sharing. I know that whenever I do have kids this will be something I have to battle. Even with my dogs (I know, no comparison to a baby, but that's all the experience I've had) I was very protective of how people treated them because I didn't want them eating anything weird or getting loose and running off. It's hard to come across as over-protective, but sometimes it's easier in the long run.

Chibi Jeebs

So glad he's okay!

My best friends deal with this with their little guy who is allergic to tree nuts. It's absolutely mind-boggling how many people have the "Oh, it's just a TINY BIT of peanut butter!" attitude, especially when that TINY BIT of peanut butter could kill him. Unfortunately some people just don't think.

sensibly Sassy

How terrifying, I am so glad he is ok. And I am so sorry you had to go through that!

Jess

Oh, my god. This is so scary. I cannot imagine how incredibly terrifying this experience must have been. I'm so glad that he's OK.

Mandee

What an incredibly horrifying experience. So glad that you all survived relatively unscathed.

As I told my sister this week when she sent me an irate email about the mosquito bites my nephew got while at our parents' house--you're his mom. It is your prerogative and obligation to set the priorities in his life. The rest of us have to respect that--even when we think you are being a little nuts about the mosquito bites. Most of the time you moms have reasons for those gut feelings that can't be expressed. I, for one, will always respect that.

Kaleigha

So glad he's okay! Loves to Kyle!

Jen

Jennie, all I can say is, OH MY GOD. I am literally tearing up thinking about how you must've felt in the moment this was happening to Kyle. And poor, poor Kyle. SO glad he's OK.

We've been pretty lax about introducing foods to Rowan, but this has me wanting to take it down a notch. Just let him be a baby for as long as he needs to be. He has the rest of his life to enjoy ice cream, you know?

Hugs.

jodifur

I'm so glad Kyle is ok.

You and I have very similar parenting style and I have to tell you, sometimes things just happen. Michael's hand was broken at preschool.

You did nothing wrong, really.

hillary

I'm so glad he is okay. I can't imagine the fear you must have felt. I hope that YOU are okay.

C @ Kid Things

So glad he's ok. When my oldest son was 2, he choked on a chicken nugget. My husband had to reach in with his finger to unlodge it, all the while my son was turning blue. The terrified look in his eyes I will always live with.

Jennie

Exactly. The look on his face brings me to tears every time I think of it. I doubt that will ever change.


Stephanie

I am so glad Kyle is okay! I'm impressed with your quick reaction. Hopefully your heart has stopped racing by now.

Jennie

*crossing fingers it will any second now*


Raven

*HUG*

I don't remember the speed at which we introduced things to Sprog but I remember having to fight my EX-MIL every step of the way to slow her roll. He was hospitalized for over a week at the age of 7 mos (unrelated, he had RSV from the daycare) and I was damned if anything else was going to put him back there. Especially given my history of being allergic to the world, you'd figure it'd make sense to be cautious but she simply WOULD NOT GET IT. It amazes me the battles we have to fight as mothers with people around us.

I'm so glad he's okay!

Liz

That is such a terrifying experience! The stuff of nightmares, really. Here's to hoping there's not another emergency before he's, oh, let's say... 58.

Kristina

This was a great topic. In my experience, it seems that some people, especially people from the "old school" of parenting (i.e. our parents and grandparents) are pretty lax when it comes to babies. It's probably because when they were raising kids, doctors just didn't know as much, and they have a tendancy to think "Well, I raised x number of kids and they all survived, and you are a new mom, and you're overreacting", so they think it's okay to give a baby "just a little" bit. I hesitated to speak up when my son was little too, but no one can advocate for our children but us. Plus, even if it's not a safety issue, and is something simple, our family and friends should respect our decisions when it comes to parenting our children, even if they don't agree.

It sucks that you had to deal with this situation, and I'm so glad Kyle is okay! And don't blame yourself!!

bethanywd

When my son (now 6) was 1.5 (and I was 6 months pregnant with my daughter - he choked on some peanuts that my husdand had given him. I had to flip him over and do the child choking assit (basically you hit them pretty hard on their back while you hold them over your legs). A few strokes in, he threw up and spit out what had gotten stuck. Thanks goodness I new what to do - basically, I went with my gut and had place of mind to remember the infant first aid training we had taken. We still called 911, of course! The firemen COULD NOT have been nicer. They told us they would prefer we call - they move extra fast to get out on calls when kids are involved.

So glad Kyle is okay! The mama instinct is pretty strong.

Jennie

Bethany, wow. Makes me feel (EVEN MORE SO) that I need to get in and take a class.



Funny, they dispatched (for whatever reason) a cop first who was AWFUL and RUDE and said, "Your kid looks fine. Why did you call?" The firefighters who were right behind him were as nice as can be and basically told the cop, "We got this, get out of here."



Always call and get peace of mind. It's a SMALL PRICE TO PAY.


Megan

Oh, Jennie. God, I am so sorry you had to go through that. And SO happy Kyle is ok. Yes, things will happen as they grow up, but it doesn't make it any easier, or less blame-y.

As someone whose daughter has stopped breathing in her arms three times, I no longer worry about being That Mom. People can judge all they want--she's still alive. That's all that matters to me.

Hugs to you guys.

Bobbi Janay

Oh my gosh do they think he is allergic to dairy or just that hi little system is not ready for it yet? Hugs girl on handling it all so calm, if it would have been I would have called whoever fed him the ice cream and chewed them out.

Jennie

Honestly, it could be either. He was VERY colicky/gassy/fussy when he was first born and it all went away when I stopped breastfeeding. So ... something I was eating (even though I cut out as much as I could think of) was bugging him something fierce. Was it dairy? Could be.



But, until he's a year and we give him milk products in safe amounts, we won't know.



Definitely a reaction of some kind though. Definitely.


Manda

HOLY CRAP! I'm so sorry that happened and I'm so glad he's (and you're) ok! Some people have balls, I tell you. My mom fed Sydney half a Costco sundae unbeknownst to me when she was here visiting. I was so mad and she could have given a flying fuck, quick honestly. I should forward this post to her!

Manda

(p.s. I NEVER say that word, by the way. I just needed to express how PISSED OFF I was)

Jennie

You should, Manda. Let us be a cautionary tale! So many (VERY WELL MEANING) grandparents just give kids whatever they want because that's how they did it or because "what's the worst that can happen?" When it comes to food, I'm going to take a very strong less is more approach from here on. Babies don't need ice cream (or ice cream sundaes). PERIOD.


Marilyn

I saw your tweet earlier and was looking for this post. Honestly your post just sent shivers down me. I have a little one too and I know how it is when you get together with people and they all want to hold the baby. You kind of feel like you lose control of them at that point. I'll remember this post and make sure I keep a closer eye on Em when she's doing the pass around the room.

Sarah

Scary! I had no idea little bits of grown up food here and there could run the risk of having that kind of reaction. I will keep this in mind with baby on the way. Glad to hear he's ok now, I can only imagine what you went through.

Jennie

Marilyn, exactly. And these are all very trust-worthy people who adore our kids, so we feel guilty for being kind of helicopter-y with them, BUT this is all I needed to experience to remind me that my gut is more important than any relationship I have with ANYONE. If my gut says NO, it's a no, no matter how offended you might be. (You, as in a general you-type person, not YOU personally, of course!)


Jennie

Sarah, I really didn't know it could be THAT bad, either. I would often roll my eyes at people who said, "wait until six months! wait until a year!" But, now I know better.


Kim

Scary!!!
Many a time have I had to play the Mean Mommy and say no to my in-laws, who wanted to give our (now 16 month old) son random choking hazards. Gum, anyone? So stupid. You HAVE to be your child's biggest advocate, in all scenarios, no matter what 'they' say behind your back.

TUWABVB

WOW - I was freaking out just reading this - and here I am NOT a mom and I wasn't even there. I can't even imagine what you went through - I'm so sorry! I'm just glad he's okay and so are both of you. Gosh, I didn't even know that cream could hurt a baby.

By the way, for what it's worth, from what I read you are doing a fantastic job as a mom and so is Mike as a dad. Don't even doubt that.

rebecca

we are pretty laid back, too, which is good because my mother thinks a baby can have little bites of anything...but i have had to put my foot down on milk products...especially since CJ is lactose intolerant...sometimes people just don't think.
And you got through the first ER trip! Ours was Violet's dog bite...it was bad enough when I could talk to her and explain what was going to happen...I can't imagine going through it as six months.
Isn't it amazing what your mommy instinct kicks in and has you do, though? You did a great job.

Jen

Jennie, first I'm so glad that Kyle is okay. I can't imagine how scary that must have been for you.

We've taken lots of teasing for not letting Avery, our 5 month old, have bites and tastes of things, but I don't care. Thanks for sharing the story with us.

jodifur

don't beat yourself up that you didn't take a class. Our childbirth class had a baby CPR component but I'm not sure I could do it if my life depended on it in the moment.

Camels & Chocolate

That's so scary! I'm sorry you had to go through all of that.

Elizabeth

Oh, Jennie. It sounds so so so so scary. I absolutely think you did the right thing.
I seriously was horrified reading this whole thing. I can't imagine how scary that would be. I think I would be traumatized for quite some time. But I am SO glad KC is ok.

Kate

Oh how scary! I'm so sorry you & Kyle had to go thru that. But thank goodness he's okay.

My daughter at 9 months got a taste of some homemade ice cream that I'd made (my doing) and she immediately got all red and splotchy on her face & neck. I watched her closely for hours and she was fine. It happened another time a few months later where she actually threw up and was red & splotchy. Long story short, she had some food allergies. Eggs whites, which is what I suspected, but more surprisingly to MILK. By the time it was discovered she had had formula for a couple months & was switching to cow's milk.

We met with an allergist who said that egg alleriges cause the irritated skin and the milk allergies cause the upset stomach. Which would explain why she was such a spitty and fussy baby; she had a tummy ache the whole time! And at 2 months the pediatrician blamed it on reflux and started her on meds, which did no good. No one ever suggested to me to try cutting things out of MY diet (I was breastfeeding). So the poor little gal spent most of her first year uncomfortable - no wondershe was so clingy!

The point of my epic comment is just to say you're correct in being That Mom when it comes to food. If Kyle's already had this episode, I'd watch for possible food allergies down the road. My daughter's were mild; we just avoided eggs and switched her to soy milk for about 6 months to give her system a break and she outgrew it by the time she was 2.

Again, so, SO glad Kyle is okay.

La Petite CHic

How awful and scary for all of you! I'm so glad that things turned out okay. HUGS.

the new girl

Oh, that's horrible. It sucks that you were by yourself, too. That is some scary shit right there.

Glad he's okay.

ali

GAH. sooooo glad he`s okay!

Sara

So, so glad he's ok! We also had a medical situation with my son when he was 6 months and let's just say that I am SO GLAD I listened to my instinct and my husband's and went to the ER because the outcome would have been so much worse if we hadn't. You're a fantastic mother and Kyle (and Mike) are so lucky to have you!

See Sherm Blog

Thank god he is ok! I saw your twitter, but this is just a horrible experience!

My sister just had to do the heimlich on her son in the store, after he ate a sample that was too big for him.

And right before Rowan was born, Kyle and I said we should learn baby cpr and what to do if they choke. Except we never signed up for the classes. These two stories just confirmed we are signing up for the classes.

I don't know how I would shake this either. Ugh. Hang in there! You were such a great mommy and did just the right thing. **hugs**

Rachel

So scary, but I'm so glad that you shared! It is so important to know what to do in these kinds of situations, but also just making sure the people around you know what's okay to feed him and what isn't will make a huge difference! I'm going to remember this when Wes is born! :)

3carnations

So glad he's okay! That sounds terrifying!

But the other people? Should NOT ever feed something to a baby without asking a parent if it's okay. EVER.

for the love of pictures

That must have been such a horrifying experience. Thank God he's okay now.

I found your site on 20SB, btw.

Kristabella

SCARY! I'm so glad he's OK!

When my first nephew was about 6 months old, I gave him some cheesecake and some ice cream. My sister flipped out because he's too young for that stuff. I had NO CLUE and felt so bad.

Jessica

Have you taken an infant/toddler CPR class? I plan on taking one before I give birth and I'm hoping it will make me feel a little more at ease... Sounds like you handled it REALLY well. You should feel good about that.

Rhi

So glad you're all okay! I told this story to Bill as a reason why certain family members will NEVER be able to hold our baby.

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  • 1. Create a business plan for the 5K I'd like to organize.
    2. Finally buy those investment jeans.
    3. Get brave with a new hair color.
    4. Read all my book club selections.
    5. Make Kyle's baby blanket and book of letters.
    6. Take at least one yoga class a month.
    7. Make a neighborhood friend.
    8. Organize the upstairs work space.
    9. Go to the Fort Worth Modern Art Museum and eat lunch at Cafe Modern.
    10. Write and submit a piece on parenting.
    11. PR in every distance (5K, 10K, half-marathon).
    12. Get a third tattoo.
    13. Throw a baby shower.
    14. Take a trip with Mike, to celebrate our fifth anniversary.
    15. See a therapist.
    16. Update my SS card and passport.
    17. Make a general doctor's appointment.
    18. Go horseback riding.
    19. Decide what to do with my race bibs.
    20. Make these envelopes for thank you cards.
    21. Create and fill up a magical thinking jar.
    22. Paint some mason jars for our kitchen.
    23. Do something with the space above our couch.
    24. Create a nostalgia wall on the wall by our stairs.
    25. Sneak in cans of champagne to a chick flick with friends.
    26. Replace our kitchen counters.
    27. Have a garage sale and donate half the money to our local food bank.
    28. Create an address wreath for our front door.
    29. Paint our front door.
    30. Run at least 250 miles throughout the year.
    31. Find a charity that speaks to me, that I can become a voice for.
    32. Say something out loud every day.
    33. Go back to College Station.
    34. Pose for a boudoir session.
    35. Wear pretty new under things on New Year's Day.
    36. Enjoy Boston cream pie cupcakes.
    37. Host a more organized run at this year's Blathering.
    38. Take a family trip, even if it's just a weekend drive somewhere nearby.
    39. Hold Natalie's baby boy in the hospital.
    40. Create an Activities Advent Calendar for an early month in 2012.
    41. Create my Christmas Plan by November 1st.
    42. Create a media kit for my Lush sites.
    43. Replace our stockings for 2012.
    44. Buy a tree skirt.
    45. Go to kickboxing, at least five times.
    46. Sell 50 shirts through Cherry Jean.
    47. Finish the 6-week boot camp class I've already paid for.
    48. No phone or computer between 6 pm - Kyle's bedtime.
    49. Start marathon prep.
    50. Host a champagne-inspired dinner (champagne risotto, champagne cocktails, etc.)
    51. Do something with our front porch.
    52. Take Kyle on a night out of town, just us two.
    53. Eat at Salsa Fuego, in Fort Worth.
    54. Throw Mike a very rad 35th birthday party.
    55. Re-read To Kill a Mockingbird.
    56. Post on She Likes Purple at least 3x a week.
    57. Play poker.
    58. Volunteer at a race.
    59. Karaoke, at least once!
    60. Regularly work out the month of December.
    61. Write a fictional story (here, on paper, submitted, somehow).
    62. Hit send on a hard email.
    63. Host an outdoor movie night in our yard.
    64. Wear a swimsuit.
    65. Put a new pin in our wall map.
    66. Buy a great pair of impractical heels.
    67. See Beauty & the Beast in a theater, again.
    68. See the Nutcracker, Christmas season 2012.
    69. Run 15 miles, at some point.
    70. Get a new blender and food processor.
    71. Go to the ballet.
    72. Take professional family photos.
    73. Write a letter to Mike once a month.
    74. Do 10 real push-ups and one pull-up.
    75. Run 3 miles for my 30th birthday.
    76. Create an awesome headboard.